A lot of things you should consider before deciding to get married. In addition to considering candidates for his own partner, you should also consider the prospective partner's family. Remember, someday, they too will become your family too, right? In addition to the prospective in-laws, you also need to take care of other family members, such as older or younger candidate couples.
The most important is the prospective in-laws. Normally, you would like any relationship with the prospective in-laws can already known at the time of introduction or your first meeting with them. At that moment, you can find out what the prospective in-laws, how to view their lives, their attitudes and habits, and of course their view of you personally.
Maybe you often heard the advice of parents who said the first meeting was decisive. It did have a point. Therefore, you should prepare yourself as well as possible, both in terms of mental and appearance. You can ask for help prospective couples to give Opera-that you need. Do not until you meet the prospective in-laws without enough stock. One-one, first impressions will be decorated with red figures. It's not mentally prepared, your appearance would not get respect from prospective in-laws.
Just ask the couple, what was the least preferred by the father and mother. For example, if the father does not like to smoke, leave your cigarettes in the car. Or if she does not hate sports boxing, avoid the topic of conversation around boxing.
Show Interest
In addition to seeking as much information, you also have to prepare your attitude, without the need to create the impression of excessive pretend. If the prospective in-laws, including those who are still traditional, we recommend that you do not try to be open and quasi-familiar. Be formal and polite is not an exaggeration seems more fitting.
Also learn family traditions the couple, especially what you should do in the very first meeting the prospective in-laws. Do you have to shake hands, bow, kiss his hand, and so forth. If you are not fluent in the original family of the couple, ask the couple a few sentences region. For example, the sentence when I first met, how, and so forth. Of course, you also have to learn their customs in general, as the stock enters the household later.
At the meet, chat material must also be appropriate for the prospective in-laws feel you are a person of worth. Many cases where the prospective in-laws to dominate chat with the chat topic altogether unwelcome prospective son in law. Well, if this happens to you, inevitably you have to want to be a good listener. Not comfortable indeed, but there was no other way. Try to keep showing interest in what was being said prospective in-laws.
Remember, everyone will love someone else if they are also preferred. So, show a caring attitude and be interested. Watch their body language. At the time of speaking, Stare at the eyes of prospective in-laws to show that you notice what he was saying, a good seat, and keep your eyes still staring at the speaker for the prospective in-laws. Do not show body language that shows your discomfort, even if you do not like the topics discussed.
Instead of feeling upset, why do not you just take the positive side? Make a topic that brought the prospective in-laws as new insights for you.
Some other things that need your attention at the first meeting as a matter of clothes you wear. Wear appropriate clothing and appropriate. Needless to excessive wear formal dress, pretty dress modestly and neatly. How to sit, smile loose, and the interest that you show will be a material positive assessment from the prospective in-laws.
Rawat Relations
After the success of the first meeting, do not be complacent first. You still have a duty to take care of that already established good relations it. Remember, you are still a 'candidate-law' and not 'law'. So, there will still be the candidate-in-law changed his mind, which might affect your relationship with your partner as well.
An easy way to treat the relationship is by not making a fatal mistake. For example, do not show negative behavior, remains to be polite, as much as possible give attention to all family members, including the prospective in-laws, the candidate's brother and sister-in-law, and others.
Show also, in particular to prospective in-laws, that you are the right person for their child. For example, by showing your responsibility towards your partner, responsibility for your career, against your own family, and to your environment. One example of irresponsible action against such couples are not keeping the promises, arguing for no reason, and so forth.
It was, if these simple things you can do, no more obstacles than your partner's family for both of us. Sure, it would be ideal if this continues you do and keep until you marry your partner later.
Bring Gifts
In addition to the prospective in-laws, other nuclear family members also should receive separate attention. Brother and sister pair, for example. Instead, you know everything about them, start date of birth, hobbies, and of course, his attitude toward you. Many cases we find where the candidate or candidate's brother-in-law or sister-in-law hates not so in respect for the candidate's brother or sister-in-law, is not it? Well, how you should deal with situations like that, or what should you do to make prospective sister-in-law or sister-whether you be kind to you?
The best way is to succumb, in the sense not to open confrontation. Find more used to the reason of their dislike of you. If it was merely a habit and it turns out that attitude applies to all new people who are known brother or sister-in-law, you do not need to worry. Over time, this attitude would gradually fade. However, if the reason is more personal attitude, it helps you find the right time and be waiting. If you need to ask for help prospective in-laws to 'reconcile' both of you.
Nothing wrong with occasional gifts you bring to them. Of course, you should ask first to the spouse, what about the right gift or gifts for them. This is not another one so you do not give gifts. Imagine, what's on your mind at the time received a gift that very thing you hate? So, again, information is very important. Needless to expensive and luxurious gifts, which is important, parcel are private, meaning very close to the recipient personally. Thanks for reading:Take the Heart of Family Partner
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